Domestic Abuse

What is Abuse?
Abuse is any non-healthy behavior that belittles, demeans or intimidates another person. This includes physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse. Abuse is a crime. Domestic violence in the presence of a minor is a felony.

If You Know Someone Is Being Abused:
  • Let them know you care and there is help.
  • Let them know violence is not acceptable.
  • Provide information so they can choose to seek help.
  • Don't ignore it. If children are involved, it must be reported. Failure to do so is a crime.

If You Fear You May Become Abused or In Danger, Develop a Safety Plan:
  1. If an argument seems unavoidable move to a room with easy access to a door or window. Not a bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near potential weapons.
  2. Identify which door, window, stairwell or elevators offers the quickest way out of your home and practice your route with your children if appropriate.
  3. Devise a code word to use with your children, family and friends when you need the police.
  4. Note batterer's information (date of birth, Social Security Number, description, vehicle/license, weapons, work sites). Conceal it and leave a copy with a trusted relative or friend, if possible.
  5. Have a bag packed and ready. Keep it hidden but easy to get to. For instance, at the house of a trusted friend or relative. Pack it with money, medications, clothes, extra keys, important papers. When leaving, take a child's favorite toy or blanket.
  6. Plan a safe place to go. Keep phone numbers handy of Elijah Haven, trusted friend or relative. Choose a public location for meeting a trusted friend or relative, such as the local McDonalds, Gas Station, a Church parking lot.

    Remember: Leaving your batterer is the most dangerous time.
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